Hello, I’m Debbie, Dan’s mum.
This blog is my way of coping with Dan’s sudden death in a road accident in 2018. I deal with grief and sadness and sometimes a little hope.
I’ve written a memoir, Middowed, and I’m looking for a bold agent to take it on and help me take mine and Dan’s story out into the world. It follows my path of loss in the 12 months after Dan died and weaves in and out of Dan’s story from birth to fifteen.
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They have bags of ‘tennis ball’ bubble gum at the Go Local shop just along from where my dad lives. They look like the little knobbly bubblies from an old bubbly machine. I loved those. 2p (or 5p. 70s Inflation hit us kids hard in our pocket money stakes) and you got this rock hardContinue reading “Bubblegum and Tattoos”
I definitely don’t believe in God. Not the ‘earth created in seven days, Adam and Eve’ stuff that some people seem to be able to swallow whole, as fact. I don’t believe a singular being or even a group of deities made this planet and everything on it. I’m firmly on the side of scienceContinue reading “I Definitely Don’t Believe in God”
For the last three years I’ve been trying to get a photo of the right quality of Dan for the NHS Blood and Transplant Service to use on a memory board at Sheffield Children’s Hospital, in honour of Dan’s amazing gift of life through organ donation. The memory boards are large picture boards typically depictingContinue reading “A Photograph of You”
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I’m Debbie. I’m a fifty-something Middow* and Disabled Students’ Allowance Assessor** and a blogger***
*Middow is a coined term for a mother who has lost her only child
**Disabled Students’ Allowance Assessor is someone who helps HE disabled students get government-funded support.
***trainee/incompetent blogger to be exact.